How to Achieve your Goals and be Happier – Part 1
You are unique! How aware are you of this simple truth? To clarify, you have a unique combination of personality traits, interests, qualities, thoughts, and skills. Therefore you are a very special living creature! However, maybe you don’t see yourself that way. But if you would like to have another view of yourself, then put goals. I’ll give you some ideas on how to achieve your goals and be happier.
Firstly, I will go into some theory. Secondly, I would like to make this topic interactive. You could also use this blog as a worksheet. However, if you have a question or comment you’d like to make, don’t hesitate and let me know! There’s a comment box below.
There is quite a lot to talk about, therefore this will be the first of two blog posts on how to achieve your goals and be happier. In short, the purpose of this first blog is to help you see the importance of having goals and take the first steps toward one of your big goals.
Here I will discuss the following:
- Investigate your feelings around big goals
- Take a lesson from nature
- You need something to live for
- Evaluate your ideas
Investigate your feelings around big goals
Above all, let’s start with an idea:
Do not be afraid to set yourself big goals. If others have succeeded in achieving them, you can do it too.
What feelings come up as you read this?
◽️For others yes, but not for me.
◽️Maybe… I don’t know.
When your answer is one of the first three, you stopped dreaming big. As a child, you most probably did though. But it could be that situations in your life made you give up on setting yourself big goals. “What’s the point,” you might think, “it’s beyond my reach”.
However, let me ask you a question. How do you see life itself? As a meaningless accident? That could be a problem. When all life would just be the result of countless coincidences, setting big goals would be pretty meaningless.
Take a lesson from nature
William Provine, professor of history and biology, summarized his views this way: “There are no gods, no purposes, and no goal-directed forces of any kind… There is no ultimate foundation for ethics, no ultimate meaning in life, and no free will for humans, either.”
In contrast, many people do not agree with those thoughts or that vision, including other professors. As you and I make mistakes and keep on learning, likewise professors do too.
Many scientists see that our universe is being governed by very precise, mathematical laws. Not only that, but they are deeply impressed by the magnificent DESIGN in nature. That’s why biomimetics originated. People try to imitate nature in their products.
According to Wikipedia “Biomimetics or biomimicry is the imitation of the models, systems, and elements of nature for the purpose of solving complex human problems.”
Nature and life are not the results of an unintelligent coincidence. The intelligence and goals behind it inspire to solve even COMPLEX problems!
When we’re humble, we have to admit that these functional and complex designs need an intelligent DESIGNER. From experience, humble scientists know that they’re not the result of unguided forces.
In other words, life is not a blind coincidence. It was set as a targeted goal. So are you as a human being! You are a wonderful result of the goal of the generous Designer. And you have received the gift of setting and achieving goals yourself. Doesn’t that motivate you even more?
We need something to live for
To stay alive and spiritually healthy, we certainly do need something to live for. When you have no specific goals in life, you can feel down or even become depressed. Humans NEED goals and focus. And when you reach them, you’ll feel great and encouraged. It even boosts your self-esteem!
Carol Ryff, professor of psychology, said:
“People who feel their lives have purpose show widespread health benefits — they have reduced risk for cognitive impairment and Alzheimer’s disease, reduced risk for cardiovascular disease, better recovery profiles from stroke, better biomarker profiles, and relatedly, they live longer.”
Yes, having purposes can have a wonderful impact on your life. To be happier you really need goals to achieve. In short, good goals can give you psychological strength and better health. And if they are of a spiritual nature, as a result, the benefits will even be better!
Back to practice now. A goal is like a blueprint. In other words, you have to actively do something to realize it and bring it to life.
Brainstorm around all the goals you would like to achieve. Write them down on a piece of paper. Take time to do this. And do not be hesitant. Don’t start to analyze every thought that’s coming up and don’t judge them too quickly. Just write down all your ideas. But if you don’t have much inspiration you could start with 5 or 10.
I’ll show a few things that were on my list for example:
Personal development – education
- Getting my driver’s license despite being not too young
- Education around health
- Getting a better health
- Getting a diploma for business management
Work & lifestyle
- Decluttering and getting rid of stuff I don’t use or need
- Trying to do physical exercise daily (walk, jog, stairs…)
- Starting my own online business
- Moving to a better place
- Learning more about our Creator through nature and science
- Daily meditation and meaningful prayer
- Helping friends with their health issues
These are just a few examples. Some of those goals will stay on my list while others are accomplished and replaced by new goals. It’s fun and it really gives you a feeling of satisfaction when you’ve reached even one. Especially the difficult ones that seem like mountains to move! It will motivate you to achieve your next goals and become even happier.
Now first, make your own list…
Evaluate your ideas
Firstly, let’s give some color to your goals.Which of your ideas do you really find exciting?
▫️ Mark them with an ‘E‘ and use a specific color you like.
What are the most challenging ones?
▫️ Mark them with a ‘C‘ in another color.
And which ones would make you very proud if you’ll achieve them?
▫️ Mark them with a ‘P‘.
Some goals possibly have more than one letter and color. This is just to have a clear overview, bring it to life and let it sink in deeper.
You probably have big and small goals on your list. It’s important that you break down your big and challenging goals into several smaller goals or steps. This will make them less overwhelming. It’s not good to feel overwhelmed because that can paralyze you. And doing nothing is not on the list!
Look again at your list. You probably have goals you want to achieve faster than others. In what order would you like to achieve them? Give them a number. Start with the goal you want to achieve first. It’s good to choose an easy one that won’t take too much time. It will consequently motivate you for the next one.
When you have your list and picked one out, go to the next post on How to Achieve your Goal and be Happy – Part 2.
This is an overview of the next steps:
- Get started today!
- Have a vision board
- Be flexible
- Visualization exercise
- Reward yourself
- Extra tips
I wish you success to achieve your goals and be happier!